Just got some great advice from our pediatrician about bedtime: make the child feel they have control by offering 2 or 3 choices, but make sure all those choices are acceptable, I.e. Involve going to sleep.
E.g. “Would you like to go to bed before having a cup of milk, or after?”
Suppress dissent by giving them the illusion of control while having none.
Then, several hours later, I was like: “Fuck. That’s how democracy works.”